The feeling of desire is created in the brain as a result of positive memories, fantasies, and sensations.A common problem in many relationships is imbalance in desire, one party has more desire for sexual encounters than the other party. The desire is the driving force for sexual activity. If this drive for various reasons, is disturbed or does not light up, it could cause problems. The sexual encounters are not happening, or they happen without joy and longing. When two people meet and want to live together it is not possible to have equal sex drive all the time. New relationships are characterized by passion and gives us a great need for intimacy and sexuality. But when the passion has subsided and everyday life arises, it is common with imbalance in desire. One of the parties have more and more often desire than the other. This can lead to serious relationship problems. The urge may be affected by numerous factors. Pregnancies, childbirth and infancy leading many relationships to desire problems. Tiredness after nights without sleep, siblings and duplication can lead to a woman's desire disappears. A poor relationship with the partner can also cause loss of lust, people simply don’t get turned on by each other. But other crises, such as unemployment, grief after losing someone or infidelity can lead to that desire is not there when you want. Although some diseases and treatments can affect sexual desire much. Often it is difficult to find a specific cause to urge not being there at the time. For the most part, there are several different factors that interact and affect the desire negatively. This can be a major challenge in many relationships. There may be many ways to find back to their lust, but these roads can sometimes be hard to find yourself.
Lust nutrition is desire, sensuality, fantasies and memories.
Communicational problemsMany studies have shown that the quality of the relationship is the most important factor so that sexual life can function in a relationship. If the couple's communication and interaction works, sexual problems can be overcome. Talking about sexuality with your partner is not always easy, misunderstandings often occur, which can sometimes lead to one partner feeling offended.
Orgasm problemsOrgasm is the climax of sexual encounters, pleasure climax, which is usually described in different ways, a good definition of orgasm gave Cindy Meston: "An experience of intense pleasure that leads to an altered state of consciousness and is accompanied by contractions of the muscles in the abdomen, often in the uterus and anus, and which dissolves sexually caused tension and brings well-being and pleasure." The orgasm is usually followed by relaxation. Orgasm usually feels very different from person to person, from time to time, both sensations, intensity and duration. For the bodily events, the mental experience of maximum wellbeing. This feeling and this condition is sometimes difficult to achieve, it is not uncommon for women of all ages saying that they have never experienced an orgasm. This can have many different causes. Many women never experience orgasm during intercourse, but they require stimulation of the clitoris, which can either be done before, during or after intercourse. Not having experienced orgasm is extremely rare physiological causes but most often this is due to a combination of factors in the relationship, and self-image. Orgasm ability can be affected by various drugs, such as antidepressants.
Pain during intercoursePain during intercourse is a major problem for some women and also for many couples. For some, the problem is only for a short time, e.g. associated with a fungal infection. But some women are bothered by the superficial dyspareunia, burning pain in the vagina for a very long time. You try to treat yourself with various home remedies and prescription medications without success. And however big one’s effort is, one cannot identify a cause. These women sometimes see many gynecologists without success. They are often told that everything looks normal. But the pain is still there. Even deep intercourse pain, i.e. pain inside the stomach at the uterus or in the ovaries which can cause problems in living together. These pains often have an easier explanation, such as ovulation pain or cysts in the ovaries. At these problems one often sees a gynecologist, who can help, but in some cases, it shows in all the examination that everything looks normal, but still it hurts. If it hurts to have intercourse without one finding any physiological reasons, this can lead to other sexological problems, desire for sex subsides. Then it is important to get help with these problems.
Difficulties performing intercourseFor all couples, it is not a matter of course to be able to complete sexual intercourse. Men's problems could be erectile failure or premature ejaculation. In women, there may be problems with increased muscle tone in the pelvic floor, which can make it impossible for penetration with the penis. It does not work out as you intended. The condition is called vaginal cramps or vaginismus. The causes of vaginismus can be many, the condition is common after a sexual assault, but many times it is difficult to find a simple explanation. Vaginal cramps can be so strong that the woman cannot use tampons. It is not unusual that the woman don’t dare to seek help for the problem in fear of making a fool of herself.
Sexual problems caused by other illnesses or disabilitiesMany chronic diseases and disabilities affect sexuality. This impact may be different, such as sensory loss in multiple sclerosis, it may be lust problems with depression, and it can be severe pain during sexual activity in rheumatic diseases. But just the knowledge of you suffering from a chronic disease can affect one's self-esteem, which doesn’t improve sexual drive. Sometimes it may be that one cannot talk about these issues with their doctor, or that it is difficult to see a connection between the disease and the sexual worries. Disabilities may well be congenital or acquired. If you have congenital disabilities and have learned to live with them and the whole life is controlled by having the disability in mind. However, if the disability is acquired eg after an accident or illness, the transition can be difficult. Sometimes you need help finding back to your sexuality.
Questions about sexual identityHetero-, homo- or bisexuality are not always a matter of course and not always easy to accept. Sometimes it can feel good to be explained the concepts and feelings with someone else. This can lead to better understanding and acceptance of oneself.
Problems doing gynecological examinationsSome women find it difficult to do a gynecological examination for various reasons. I can help with the training to do so.
Other sexological issuesThere may be concerns about what happens to you at sexual activity, it can be about problems to become moist during sexual arousal, there are questions about different sexual expressions, and much more.